Posted in Essay, Life

Time Flies

It literally does, doesn’t it – whether you are having fun or facing challenges. Time flies really fast. Especially for us, humans.

Human life is fragile and fleeting.

As cliche as it may sound, one must truly live in the moment while treasuring those special memories we’ve had in the past.

We should live like a child. They spend time without thinking of actually spending it. They are spending it on things that’s worth something to them. Children live their lives in a quite predictable and straightforward manner. They express whatever it is they are feeling – the way they appreciate simple things, the way they laugh on small stuff, the way they cry whether it be because they are happy or sad, the way they are curious to things around them, the way they play, their innocence, charm and spirit. We should, in a way, live like them.

Can you remember those days when you didn’t give a damn on what other people think, so long as you are doing what makes you happy? Can you remember those days when you are taught what is right and wrong; and you strive your best to do the former? Can you remember the days you spent wondering on how things are made or how things work? Can you remember those times when you are full of life? Remember those days when you get knocked down but you just getup right away and you learn to do better?

Time flies, right? So let us take a small step back and learn from the younger versions of ourselves. Maybe, just maybe, we’ll be able to live a little better.

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Playful Kids

Best,

Ardent Wayfarer

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Posted in Essay

Alone’s good too

Alone; A word most people would want to avoid being – whether it be eating, watching a movie, shopping, traveling and what not. Doing things alone may seem sad and boring at first but hear me out when I say doing things all on your own has it’s own advantages and perks. Take it from someone who’s been there and done that; Take it from me who have eaten, watched a movie, shopped, hiked and traveled in a foreign country alone. And just for the record, I have awesome friends. Haha!

It’s just that I have encountered circumstances that led me to do all those things for the first time. You know, there are times when you are just too afraid/hesitant and cannot muster the strength to try out new things or face problems, the universe will do the work and put you in a situation where in you have no choice but to just do it. Have you ever experienced something similar to that? Life’s one great nudger. 

where everyday we almost make contact with another person – be it a family member, a friend, or a stranger – a moment alone can make a huge difference. Wherein you can do things in your own pace without a care in the world. It’s important that we are able to detach ourselves every once in a while (probably often) in this like/follower-driven society. Doing things alone can boost your confidence and will definitely give you a better sense of independence. Because you will be taking charge of things, literally.

Generally speaking, as cliche as this may sound, we always have a choice on things. Whether we’d feel sorry for being alone or choose to make the best out of the situation we are in. So, when life gives you that gentle nudge, be sure to take charge and face it with all your might. As the saying goes, might as well enjoy. 🙂

Best,

Ardent Wayfarer

Posted in Essay

Limitations and Beyond

Limitations (n) : a limiting rule or circumstance; a restriction.

We all have our own limitations. We all have a threshold with which we gauge our abilities and actions.

In my opinion, there are several factors that we can consider as the source of these restrictions we have.

First, our circumstances: we have varying environment wherein we live our lives; this environment have a direct effect on the limitations we have as a person. Second, is our faith and beliefs: the principles we tend to follow are somewhat limitations that we can consider inherent – our faith dictates what is wrong and right. We may not follow it through and through but most of our actions are guided, if not influenced by our core values derived from our beliefs. Last but not the least, are our selves: believe it or not, I think it is but common that we have our self-imposed restrictions that we either consciously or unconsciously follow. Often times we are blinded by our fears and insecurities. These two contributes to the facade of our own persona – an image, which we think is all that can be and all that will be of ourselves.

Out of these three factors, the last one is the most ominous. Those self-imposed restrictions are what hinders growth most of the time. It is our lack of courage and confidence that contributes to that aforementioned image. An image of despair. But fear not my friend, there’s always a way of conquering your limitations.

CHALLENGING yourself is a good way of overcoming these limitations. I for one experienced this a couple of days ago, as I was on the gym with my personal trainer – I didn’t know I would be able to lift such heavy weight as it was my first time doing it. I was afraid and inside, I just felt I couldn’t do it. But hey, thanks to Matt (my trainer) with the proper guidance and words of encouragement, I thought might as well try. To my surprise (and my trainer’s too) I was able to do it. More often than not, you just always have to TRY. The good thing about trying is that it is what hurts the least if you failed, that’s for sure! You know why? It is because after trying while giving it your best and you didn’t do good, you at least know the result and you wont be stuck with the what if(s) therefore you won’t be bothered by the thought of regret of not doing it. I know how frustrating that can be! Lastly, SURROUND yourself with RIGHT people! The guidance and boost of morale from Matt sure helped a lot. That is why, I highly recommend that you surround yourself with people that would genuinely support you on your endeavours. A little push and nudge from them will surely help you overcome your own limitations! And be sure to the same to them! 🙂

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That’s me lifting the 275s with my ever reliable personal trainer, Matt! 

And before I end this, let me share a quote from Johnny Cash, an American singer-songwriter, guitarist, actor, and author.

“You’ve got to know your limitations. I don’t know what your limitations are. I found out what mine were when I was twelve. I found out that there weren’t too many limitations, if I did it my way”

I hope I was able to impart a lesson or two from my own experience and helped you, even if its just a little, in overcoming your own restrictions. 

Best,

Ardent Wayfarer

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Sometimes it just hits you; and it hits you hard. “It” pertaining to what you may refer to as a drive or motivation, a purpose one has, a reason one makes – to either make, do, or even avoid things.

I had it coming. I just didn’t know when – I lost this particular purpose of pursuing something I should have pursued a long time ago. But now, that purpose has returned. I wasn’t looking nor was I waiting. I thought I’ll never have it again but suddenly I realised it came back. And it came back naturally.

I guess some of the motivations we have in life are innate. That we are born with the purpose to live driven by love and sometimes motivated by this inherent thirst for survival. Impulses so immanent, that once lost may find its way back freely.

If you have lost your drive, forgotten your purpose, or squandered a reason you have for doing or pursuing something and you are having a hard time retrieving it. Spent countless of hours looking for it.  If so, my dear friend; maybe all you have to do is to stop – and wait. Let that spark find its own way back to you. Let your heart naturally remember that purpose you once had. Let your brain remake the reasons you once thought of.

More often than not, faith and patience is the strongest weapon we have.

So have more of it. Let’s all do.

Best,

Ardent Wayfarer

Posted in Essay, Letter

To my Superwoman

It’s that time of the year again, wherein we celebrate all the courageous women who have showered all of us with their unconditional love.

I would like to dedicate this post to my hardworking mother, who have proven that distance is just a number. Her love has conquered the toughest of times. She showed me what genuine love truly is. She listened to every problem I had. She’s all ears for all my complaints. She patiently waited for my calls and messages. She smiles and laughs despite her sadness because the last thing she wants is to make us worry. She softly scolds me for my wrongdoings even when I know I deserve more than that. She makes sure I had something to wear, something to eat and drink. She’s there 24/7 ready to pick-up the phone even when it’s midnight. She works beyond the regular hours just to give us everything she could. She’s endured great sadness among others just to be the best mother/provider she can be. She made me feel important and loved every waking day of my life. We may not have been physically together for most of my life but she made sure to be the best mom she can be; and for that, I am forever grateful. She made all those possible despite my shortcomings and unacceptable behaviour. She stood by my side, helped me up whenever I stumble and cheered me on whenever I am down.

She’s more than just a mother. She’s my idol, my friend, and my hero. [she even topped Wonder Woman on my list of super heroes. Equally fierce and beautiful if not more; Sorry, Gal Gadot]

Ma, I am in awe every time I look at you. You were and always will be there for us. I believe and know you deserve more than just a day of celebration. You should be celebrated everyday, all throughout the year. I promise to one day return the favor and be the best son I can be. Just prolong your patience a little more. 😉

IMG_0812Happy Mother’s Day, Ma! I love you!

Love,

Ardent Wayfarer.

 

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A Mother’s Love

Cheers to all the awesome, independent and courageous mother out there.

You deserve recognition for every bit of love, kindness, tenderness and all other humane characteristics you possess. Indeed, it is true when they say that a mother’s love is unconditional.

You were a guiding light in times of our troubles. You never left and you have always lightened up the dark alleys we took in our lives.

You were a like a sturdy tree that stood firm in the ground even whilst you were in deep peril; giving us shade, making life more bearable as challenging times test us.

You were a sturdy rock that remained calm and kept everyone together.  You have withstood all the impediments that came our way.

You were a charm for all good things in life. Those words of optimism attracted good luck.

You were our best cheerleaders. You always believe and never doubt. Your words of encouragement gave us the courage to pursue greater things in life.

You were the wisest teacher, full of nuggets of wisdom from your seemingly challenging yet beautiful experience.

You were a tigress in disguise, ready to protect your cub and the strike at any given moment.

You were a blessing from up above. A beautiful angel who descended from the great heavens.

You were and always will be all of those things and for that I am grateful.

You truly are a gift. A gift that needs to be treasured, loved, and honoured.

Having said all these things, Ma, this one’s for you! I will always love you and I am genuinely grateful that the Lord has given me an amazing woman to look up to and have given me the honour to call someone as amazing as you as my mother.

Distance may have separated us but in my heart and in yours I know that we’ll always be as close as we can be. This undying love we have as a mother and child will always conquer hundreds or even thousands of miles. It will always overcome overwhelming heights of hurdle.

For your love and mine are both and one of the same thing and that is unconditional.

I will never get tired of saying this, I am forever indebted to you and I will always love you, Ma!